Preschool after-school: thanking family (once a week)

Children thank a family member for a specific kindness at home, then bring the words back to the group. This once a week plan is for preschool children in a after-school group.

  • about 4 and 5
  • 5 to 7 minutes missions
  • once a week
Preschool after-school: thanking family (once a week) — children learning gratitude with books and activities

Thanking family for preschool in a after-school group

Children thank a family member for a specific kindness at home, then bring the words back to the group. In this after-school room, preschool children (about 4 and 5) practice with “The mitten from the lost box.” Mr. Cole, the aide, he looked through the lost box and found a mitten that matched. The once a week calendar is the one that fits: This is the once-per-week format from the second half of the manual, written for groups and clubs that do not meet daily. One meeting carries the mission. A single home task goes in the activity book. Do not try to compress five school days into one hour.

The after-school leader leads. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward. Children answer in one picture and one question, answered out loud in a small circle. The spoken line is “Thank you for finding my mitten..” The note line is “Thank you for looking until you found my mitten..” Alison Gilham’s program supplies the manual, the activity book, and the flashcards; this page is the plan for this group and this kindness.

One once a week meeting in the after-school room

This is the once-per-week format from the second half of the manual, written for groups and clubs that do not meet daily. One meeting carries the mission. A single home task goes in the activity book. Do not try to compress five school days into one hour. In the after-school room, the after-school leader has one sitting with preschool children, about 4 and 5. Do not replay a school week. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward.

Open on “The mitten from the lost box.” Tell the group that Mr. Cole, the aide, he looked through the lost box and found a mitten that matched at the lost-and-found box. Put one mitten in sight. Ask all three questions, one at a time: “What did he have to do that took time?” “Why is “thank you for looking” different from “thank you for the mitten”?” “What can you say if he found it but you still feel embarrassed?” Children answer in one picture and one question, answered out loud in a small circle. Stop answers that are only “they were nice.”

Say the spoken line together: “Thank you for finding my mitten.” Then each child says it to a partner. Choose one family kindness from the practice situation. Send the line home in the activity book so the adult at home knows what the child is trying to say. The after-school leader listens for Mr. Cole's name and for one mitten.

Who is in the after-school room

After-school groups are tired. The mission has to be shorter than the day’s homework help and more concrete than a talk about character. Flashcards give the group something to look at. The weekly format fits programs that do not meet every weekday.

Age tips for preschool (about 4 and 5)

Preschool children can learn why thank you matters before they write much. They need a picture, a person, and one clear kindness. A long talk loses them. The leader shows the moment, the children say a short line, and the group stops while the words still feel friendly. For this after-school plan, keep the mission inside 5 to 7 minutes. one picture and one question, answered out loud in a small circle.

The note for Mr. Cole

The note can be a dictated sentence. The child supplies the person’s name and the kindness. The adult prints it on the activity-book template so the child can see that spoken thanks and written thanks are the same idea. For this kindness the sentence is “Thank you for looking until you found my mitten.” It has to mention the lost-and-found box or one mitten, not a general compliment to the aide.

Words to say about Mr. Cole

This is a script the after-school leader can say with preschool children during thanking family. It uses “The mitten from the lost box,” a practice situation for this plan. It is not a list of the 30 printed flashcards. Those cards stay in the set and match the activity book. Use this script when you need the words in the room.

Copy-ready lines for “The mitten from the lost box”

Spoken line to practice: “Thank you for finding my mitten.” Reply children may hear: “It was at the bottom. Check the name next time.” Note line to write: “Thank you for looking until you found my mitten.” Spanish line for the same kindness: “Gracias por encontrar mi guante.”

Spanish materials in this group

If any child in the after-school room speaks Spanish at home, order the Spanish activity book for that child and keep the same situation. The Spanish line for this plan is “Gracias por encontrar mi guante.” The English line remains “Thank you for finding my mitten.”

Classroom and group notes for the after-school room

After-school groups are tired. The mission has to be shorter than the day’s homework help and more concrete than a talk about character. Flashcards give the group something to look at. The weekly format fits programs that do not meet every weekday. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward.

If preschool children stall on Mr. Cole

Hide a mitten in a box of paper. Time the search. The thanks has to mention the looking. A child who keeps thanking the after-school leader is avoiding Mr. Cole. Send them back to the aide and the moment at the lost-and-found box. Whispering “Thank you for finding my mitten.” counts.

Books for this after-school preschool group

Spoken practice about Mr. Cole can start in the after-school room today. The activity-book template matters when preschool children are ready to write “Thank you for looking until you found my mitten..” If a sponsor is funding this after-school group, parents get a sample letter, and shipping is included on full and partial packages. The leader can ask at no cost.

What Mr. Cole's lesson needs

The Operation Thank You Manual is 98 pages. The first half is the Monday–Friday classroom sequence. The second half is the once-per-week sequence for clubs. Each child needs Why and How To Say “Thank You,” the classroom edition: a saddle-stitched activity book with situations for saying thank you, the How To Write A Thank You Note template, and extra pages to practice. The flashcard set has 30 cards, 8.5 by 11 inches, colorful, with rounded corners. The cards mirror the activity book so the group can look at one situation before writing. The manual, the activity book, and the flashcards are available in Spanish. The MISSION Reminders Supplement can be added when some children speak Spanish. Extra activity books are sold in packs of 10. For “The mitten from the lost box,” also set out one mitten. Choose one family kindness from the practice situation. Send the line home in the activity book so the adult at home knows what the child is trying to say.

Home work after The mitten from the lost box

Thank a family member who searches for a lost shoe, hat, or paper, and name the item. Write that in the activity book so the family sees Mr. Cole's kindness, not a blank “say thank you.” The note can be a dictated sentence. The child supplies the person’s name and the kindness. The adult prints it on the activity-book template so the child can see that spoken thanks and written thanks are the same idea.

Questions leaders ask

Plan on 5 to 7 minutes. This is the once-per-week format from the second half of the manual, written for groups and clubs that do not meet daily. One meeting carries the mission. A single home task goes in the activity book. Do not try to compress five school days into one hour. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward.

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