1st grade after-school: noticing kindness (once a week)

Children point to a real kindness before they are asked to say or write thank you. This once a week plan is for 1st grade children in a after-school group.

  • about 6 and 7
  • 5 to 10 minutes missions
  • once a week
1st grade after-school: noticing kindness (once a week) — children learning gratitude with books and activities

Noticing kindness for 1st grade in a after-school group

Children point to a real kindness before they are asked to say or write thank you. In this after-school room, 1st grade children (about 6 and 7) practice with “The umbrella at pickup.” Dad, the parent, he brought a dry umbrella and kept the backpack under it. The once a week calendar is the one that fits: This is the once-per-week format from the second half of the manual, written for groups and clubs that do not meet daily. One meeting carries the mission. A single home task goes in the activity book. Do not try to compress five school days into one hour.

The after-school leader leads. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward. Children answer in a short partner talk, then one child shares with the whole group. The spoken line is “Thank you for bringing the umbrella..” The note line is “Thank you for keeping my backpack dry..” Alison Gilham’s program supplies the manual, the activity book, and the flashcards; this page is the plan for this group and this kindness.

One once a week meeting in the after-school room

This is the once-per-week format from the second half of the manual, written for groups and clubs that do not meet daily. One meeting carries the mission. A single home task goes in the activity book. Do not try to compress five school days into one hour. In the after-school room, the after-school leader has one sitting with 1st grade children, about 6 and 7. Do not replay a school week. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward.

Open on “The umbrella at pickup.” Tell the group that Dad, the parent, he brought a dry umbrella and kept the backpack under it at the pickup line in the rain. Put an umbrella in sight. Ask all three questions, one at a time: “What would have gotten wet?” “Who remembered the umbrella before you did?” “What is the thanks for, the object or the person who carried it?” Children answer in a short partner talk, then one child shares with the whole group. Stop answers that are only “they were nice.”

Say the spoken line together: “Thank you for bringing the umbrella.” Then each child says it to a partner. Show the moment first. Ask what the helper did with their hands. Accept the action before you ask for the polite words. The after-school leader listens for Dad's name and for an umbrella.

Who is in the after-school room

After-school groups are tired. The mission has to be shorter than the day’s homework help and more concrete than a talk about character. Flashcards give the group something to look at. The weekly format fits programs that do not meet every weekday.

Age tips for 1st grade (about 6 and 7)

First graders are ready to connect spoken manners with a written note. They can explain, in a simple way, that thank you is for a real person who did a real thing. A first-grade teacher, Laura H, said her children used please and thank you all the time once they knew the power behind the words. For this after-school plan, keep the mission inside 5 to 10 minutes. a short partner talk, then one child shares with the whole group.

The note for Dad

Use the How To Write A Thank You Note template in the activity book. First graders fill the greeting, one sentence about the kindness, and a closing. The adult helps with names and leaves the kindness sentence to the child. For this kindness the sentence is “Thank you for keeping my backpack dry.” It has to mention the pickup line in the rain or an umbrella, not a general compliment to the parent.

Words to say about Dad

This is a script the after-school leader can say with 1st grade children during noticing kindness. It uses “The umbrella at pickup,” a practice situation for this plan. It is not a list of the 30 printed flashcards. Those cards stay in the set and match the activity book. Use this script when you need the words in the room.

Copy-ready lines for “The umbrella at pickup”

Spoken line to practice: “Thank you for bringing the umbrella.” Reply children may hear: “Stay under it until we get to the car.” Note line to write: “Thank you for keeping my backpack dry.” Spanish line for the same kindness: “Gracias por traer el paraguas.”

Spanish materials in this group

If any child in the after-school room speaks Spanish at home, order the Spanish activity book for that child and keep the same situation. The Spanish line for this plan is “Gracias por traer el paraguas.” The English line remains “Thank you for bringing the umbrella.”

Classroom and group notes for the after-school room

After-school groups are tired. The mission has to be shorter than the day’s homework help and more concrete than a talk about character. Flashcards give the group something to look at. The weekly format fits programs that do not meet every weekday. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward.

If 1st grade children stall on Dad

Hold a jacket over a backpack. Ask which thing was protected, then who thought of it. A child who keeps thanking the after-school leader is avoiding Dad. Send them back to the parent and the moment at the pickup line in the rain. Whispering “Thank you for bringing the umbrella.” counts.

Books for this after-school 1st grade group

Spoken practice about Dad can start in the after-school room today. The activity-book template matters when 1st grade children are ready to write “Thank you for keeping my backpack dry..” If a sponsor is funding this after-school group, parents get a sample letter, and shipping is included on full and partial packages. The leader can ask at no cost.

What Dad's lesson needs

The Operation Thank You Manual is 98 pages. The first half is the Monday–Friday classroom sequence. The second half is the once-per-week sequence for clubs. Each child needs Why and How To Say “Thank You,” the classroom edition: a saddle-stitched activity book with situations for saying thank you, the How To Write A Thank You Note template, and extra pages to practice. The flashcard set has 30 cards, 8.5 by 11 inches, colorful, with rounded corners. The cards mirror the activity book so the group can look at one situation before writing. The manual, the activity book, and the flashcards are available in Spanish. The MISSION Reminders Supplement can be added when some children speak Spanish. Extra activity books are sold in packs of 10. For “The umbrella at pickup,” also set out an umbrella. Show the moment first. Ask what the helper did with their hands. Accept the action before you ask for the polite words.

Home work after The umbrella at pickup

Say this one at pickup if it is raining. If the weather is dry, thank the adult for another thing they remembered. Write that in the activity book so the family sees Dad's kindness, not a blank “say thank you.” Use the How To Write A Thank You Note template in the activity book. First graders fill the greeting, one sentence about the kindness, and a closing. The adult helps with names and leaves the kindness sentence to the child.

Questions leaders ask

Plan on 5 to 10 minutes. This is the once-per-week format from the second half of the manual, written for groups and clubs that do not meet daily. One meeting carries the mission. A single home task goes in the activity book. Do not try to compress five school days into one hour. Children have already been in school. Skip silent copying drills. Say the line, act the kindness, and write only the note the program is building toward.

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